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34: Why’s It So Hard For My Kid To Do Chores

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Where the topic of chores and kids came from

So the question I’d be answering today is, why is it so hard to get my kid to do chores? Now, this podcast episode was inspired by a question that was asked at a local radio station here in Montreal. 

It’s called the Beat 92.5. I decided to call in and answer it because one, I’m a mom and two because I’m a professional organizer and I believe wholeheartedly in chores, in kids helping out and doing chores at home. If you’ve listened to my podcast episodes before, I do mention it, nine Ways to Get Kids to Help Out With Chores. So if you want to pause this episode and take a listen to that one, just head to diannejimenez.com/ 31 Alright, so let’s ask the question, why is it so hard to get my kid to do chores? 

Why’s it so hard for my kid to do chores: #1 Do they understand it (chores)?

Well, first off, and I’m gonna split this into three sections.

First off, do they understand why this needs to get done? And the reason is this: a lot of times as adults, we get motivated because there’s the why behind it. We’re more inclined to do things when we know the reason. If there’s no reason at all, where our hearts and minds are not really there to do it, then we might do it once or twice.  But the next time after that, if we’re asked to do it, it’s like, ‘well, I don’t really feel like doing it’.
So if we have that in mind, can you imagine what it is for the kids? What’s going on in their minds? You know, so they’re still developing and those, I guess, I don’t know, the science behind it is the reason. There might be a reason why with your brain or something that we don’t get motivated to do things unless there’s a concrete reason why.

Now, for us as adults, obviously, you know, the house needs to be maintained. We don’t wanna be breathing all this dust, we don’t wanna be walking on Legos and hurting our feet or you know, inviting all types of rodents or bugs into the house, even though bugs do crawl in our house all the time. But just the thought of crumbs, a mess and food all over the place, it’s just not healthy and it’s not good, obviously.

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#32: A Husband and Wife Chat: Parenthood, Home Organization, and Couple Hood with my husband Onnig

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Dianne and Onnig discussed how parenthood can be challenging, but can be made easier with the right structure and organization in place. They discussed the importance of teaching life skills and being on the same page when raising children together. They also reflected on how different their home life was before and after having children, with the abundance of baby items. The speaker shared how they used a Marie Condo “Joy of Tidying” technique to reduce their “stuffed” clothing drawer and make their life easier. Important takeaways from their discussion include understanding that not everything needs to be kept, considering more people to help out, making children do tasks that were primarily done by adults, and sharing the responsibilities to foster an efficient and organized approach. Communication is essential for relationships and parenting and tasks must be completed on time. Jordan Peterson’s philosophy about relationships and parenting have been mentioned; including the importance of having reasonable expectations for children, persisting in moments of difficulty, and anchoring oneself in these moments as a distraction. Effective communication between partners is essential, and taking the time to explain why certain things have their spot encourages respect and trust between partners. Engaging in activities with children and taking note of their small successes is also important for their development.

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#31: 9 Ways To Get Your Kids To Help With Chores

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This episode provides key tips and information on how to get kids to help with chores while instilling useful life skills. It discusses how to make it engaging by setting up a chore chart, dividing tasks, offering incentives, and breaking down complex tasks into manageable pieces. It also highlights the importance of setting a good example, being consistent and patient with teaching kids, and acknowledging their efforts. Plus get an eye-opening example straight from a client’s own experience.
If you’re struggling with getting kids to help out at home, this episode is for you.

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Podcast  #20: 5 Ways To Get Kids To Listen – Part 2

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It just happened one morning, as I write this episode out: during the morning rush… well I shouldn’t say rush because the kids weren’t rushing.  We were doing great in time.  We were just in the middle of making their breakfast and putting their lunches together. I was there assisting, cutting up veggies and just making sure they had what they needed and…there it was, in the middle of the kitchen floor: a rag.

People were talking and kicking it around and just not saying anything. And it’s not like they couldn’t feel it or anything, they were barefoot!  They just weren’t aware that there was something on the floor that someone could’ve just stopped to pick up.

But no.

So, as much as I was burning inside to say something, I waited.  I waited to see if someone, ANYONE would  notice. Nothing. So, I ended up doing it myself.

Oftentimes, it feels like the ONLY person who realizes the house is a mess, realizes that things aren’t where they should be, or realizes that other stuff has been sitting THERE for days or even weeks, and finally stops to do something about it?…It’s YOU!

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Podcast #19: 5 ways to get kids to listen – Part 1

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How do you get your kids to listen?

Well, let me be clear: they DO listen…. Sometimes, just not consistently. And one mom even said:  “sometimes, it’s as though he CHOOSES NOT to listen!”

Now, I’m talking about the boring stuff. The stuff that needs to get done around the house: picking up after themselves, cleaning their room, helping their brother or sister  out, bringing some toilet paper upstairs since they’re coming this way, or having to apologize to their sibling for whatever reason.

…. You know, regular life stuff !

Ahhh ! The frustration when they just don’t want to listen!  I see it all the time: With my own family, kids at the mall, the kids at the school…

So it got me thinking after we left our makeshift support group thing we had going on at the park. I decided to text them a list of what I usually say to get my kids to listen in hopes that it will help them with their challenges and roadblocks.

So my hope for you today, dear listener, is that while you’re listening to this episode, keep an open mind.  Listen to understand where I’m coming from and then take what you need. Tweak what resonates and makes sense for you, so that it applies to your family. I hope this helps!

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